I noticed a dirty plate in my room as I settled down at my computer for the evening. I had eaten hashbrown patties with ketchup earlier today, and lo-and-behold if I didn’t see an eyeball staring back at me from the plate tonight. I’m thinking it might be a tired version of the Virgin Mary (dark eye circles), and that maybe I should try to sell it on eBay.

Something else I’ve been pondering is what we humans consider normal in a person. I read a Scientific American editorial about autistic children, and the fact that they process information so much differently than we do. For example, they would show one a ball or something with a rounded shape, and ask them to associate a nonsense word with it…either call it a bouba or a kiki. They would routinely call it a kiki, when to most “normal” (non-autistic) people, “bouba” was the most frequently chosen sound.

But who’s to say we are right or better for thinking a certain way? I’m running into some strange people in this city…People you would not easily refer to as “normal.” Some go on and on about angels and growing wings out your back, feeling your energy fields, eating vegetarian or vegan diets to put humans on a path to a higher plane of existence, etc. I try to keep an open mind, but I can only stray so far from “normal,” accepted thinking. I know there is truth (& magic) that lie just ahead of what society has accepted as normal, so I keep my radar open for something that may become truth & normalcy in the future. For now, it’s just mystery & magic, and that keeps things fun and interesting around here.

While driving from work this afternoon, I was reminded of the queerness of some people. This car ahead of me had a yellow bumpersticker that read “My cat is the only one who understands me.”

Now, I can understand the sentiment, and I’d giggle if I saw it in a store, but why choose that statement to brand you and your car with? Do these people not realize that they are telling other people how to judge them?

I finally gave in and put my Montana State Alumni license plate frame on the Prius. I hesitated, for 2 reasons. One, if I were to make a bad traffic decision, the driver behind me would have an additional reason to curse me. I could have just been a bad woman driver, but now they know I’m a Montanan, so that gives Montanans a bad name. Also, car labeling makes you more identifiable, which could be a bad thing under the wrong circumstances. Now, instead of the woman driving the Prius, It’s the Prius with the Montana plates.

I guess there is just something to be said for a little anonymity. There are a lot of angry people in traffic, why give them ammunition or a clue of where to track you down later?

Just my paranoid thoughts of the night.

A 'social commentator' on TV the other night made the comment that truth and religion are incompatible, since religion is faith-based and cannot be proven using standard measures of truth.

I gained some wisdom from my trusty airport magazine this weekend, Cosmo. That and Scientific American.

The first is on the subject of comedy. My roommate and I have an ongoing discussion about whether jokes reinforce negative stereotypes. Cosmo said that we laugh at what we fear, or what may cause us pain. Our laughter is a sort of sigh, like, ooo, glad that didn't happen to me.

Secondly, Cosmo had more than one article that spoke on the need to keep relationships passionate by maintaining some mystery. They proposed that your romantic partner shouldn't necessarily be your best friend…best friends know you so well they can read your mind. Comforting? Yes. Exciting? No.

Just a couple interesting things from my weekend. More later.

A few update thoughts during my last night in Bozeman, MT:

I added 2 new poems under Random Inspirations. The most recent one is about music & dance, and the older one down the page is one I had written previously but discarded. Poetry generally only happens when I’m feeling low or moody.

I realized my moodiness this week has been the result of lack of exercise. I went to the gym this morning for structured exercise for the first time in about 4 weeks. I had gotten sick with a fever, cough, etc. a month ago and hadn’t felt like exercising, and just couldn’t get motivated to set a routine again once I felt better. My mood was 180 degrees better today after exercise.

I’m also considering becoming the new spokesperson for Airborne. This would have been an extremely vulnerable week for me to get sick (already feeling rundown with sniffles, family I was visiting was sick, airplane flights, etc.) but I’ve taken an Airborne tablet daily, upped my water intake, and I have no signs of becoming ill again. Yipee!

Finally, Forrest Whittaker made an powerful & insightful acceptance speech tonight at the Academy Awards. For me, it summed up the reason people become actors, or create blogs, for that matter….It’s the need to connect with others. Some people, through nature or nurture, just have a strong need to feel connected , or make a connection, to everyone and everything in the universe. Making movies is the ultimate expression of that need: it allows actors to connect first with a character, and in doing so, connect with millions of audience members through film. You could tell it hit the actors & actresses in the audience as truth (as opposed to his other thoughts on his version of god and reincarnation!).

My time in Montana has been too short, and I hate to leave already. It was comforting to talk with old friends and be in a familiar place. But I’m feeling up for the challenge of the city and of relationships, and to getting into a routine that includes more exercise. Buenas noches, amigos.

I've been moody all week, and low on energy-not really bringing my 'A' game to massage or the office. Tuesday afternoon I slept for 5 hours. I have little to no patience. I'm thinking my body is trying to fight off something. I started on Airborne yesterday, so hopefully that will give my immune system a boost.

I'm currently on a plane to Denver-final destination Bozeman, MT. Looking forward to 5 days of family & old friends.

"I want to love, I wanna feel….find peace, find the real."

~Alterbridge, Find the Real

I found this email I had sent back in 2002…more fun stories of the parasitic nature of developing humans!

“My friend Gloria just told me a good story about knee surgery. Her friend had to have knee surgery when she was seven, because apparently, she had a twin sister in the womb that didn’t survive, and the twin’s tissue attached to the girl’s knee, and stayed there until she was seven when her mom noticed her limping around the house. The doctors initially thought is was some sort of calcium deposit, but it turned out it was a growth from her twin that needed to be removed!”

I knew there was one true Christian out there that wouldn’t let me get away with such blatant blasphemy! I also know that in mentioning something to me, it means you care :) and that you are serious in your convictions.

I will definitely add that book to my list of reads…haven’t read it yet. Thanks for the suggestion! But please don’t let my soul be your burden…

Romans:”For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.”

“I am the way, the truth, & the life.”

So if God is self-evident, and God is truth, then truth is self-evident (if you are willing to be open to the truth).

Since I left the church early in college, I dedicated my life to the open pursuit of true knowledge. I tossed aside my filter of biblical absolutes, and in its place I set a screen of MY logic and experiences. I took in all viewpoints like a child, and passed them through my filter only. In this way, I believe I have made myself the most open I can be to “self-evident” truth.

As a bonus, I am able to process more information, which has landed me nuggets of truth that otherwise wouldn’t have made it past the “absolutes” filter.

If I truly belong with the God of your conviction, then that same self-evident truth will lead me back to Him, so the burden is not on one small speck of creation (Paul), but on all that “has been made”!

I am a moth to the flame of truth. I am open, however, I also believe that the truth has set me free.

P.S. It was such a bummer not to see you…hope you’ll come back to SF soon!

Sun Worshipping, originally uploaded by Chrissy Mc.

I was thrilled to wake up this morning after a week of dreary drizzle and rain to see beautiful blue skies & clouds! My first thought was to set up the lounge chair on the porch and soak in some sun. It felt amazing! It reminded me of a George Carlin comedy routine from “You Are All Diseased”:

“I decided to look around for something else to worship…something I could really count on…and immediately, I thought of the sun. Happened like that *snap*, overnight, I became a sun worshipper. Well, not overnight, you can’t see the sun at night, but first thing the next morning, I became a sun worshipper. Several reasons: First of all, I can see the sun, okay, unlike some other gods I could mention, I can actually see the sun. I’m big on that–if I can see something, I don’t know…kind of helps the credibility along, you know?

So everyday I can see the sun as it gives me everything I need: Heat, light, food, flowers in the park, reflections on the lake, an occasional skin cancer, but hey, at least there are no crucifictions and we’re not setting people on fire simply because they don’t agree with us. Sun worship is fairly simple. There’s no mystery, no miracles, no pagentry, no one asks for money, there are no songs to learn, and we don’t have a special building where we all gather once a week to compare clothing.

And the best thing about the sun, it never tells me I’m unworthy. Doesn’t tell me I’m a bad person that needs to be saved. Hasn’t said an unkind word…treats me fine. So I worship the sun. But, I don’t pray to the sun, know why? I wouldn’t presume on our friendship.”

This may be my most controversial post to-date. I signed a contract this week to become an egg donor (or ovum donor, in technical terms). Basically, a couple is going to pay over $30,000 to a clinic to try to get pregnant using my egg(s). I get a nice chunk of that for my efforts, about $6500. I found the clinic while looking for part-time work on Craigslist last December. I did my due diligence, and decided the small risks were worth the payout, and I couldn’t come up with an ethical justification for why I shouldn’t do it. I figure, I have over 200,000 eggs in my body, they want to take 10 or 15 and try to make a decent human being, why not?

I learned that couples wanting to use a donor are typically 40-somethings that worked through their prime years and waited until it was too late to conceive a child naturally. Around age 37, fertility takes a nose dive–your eggs are no good anymore.

So for some woman who really wants to go through the birthing process, bonding, etc., she can sometimes conceive using younger, fresher eggs. I guess my main concern in the situation would be the theory (my half-baked theory) that I would probably be the best person, evolutionarily speaking, to care for my own offspring. I suppose in some cases, mothers are unfit to be parents, but I would think that my milk, my touch, etc. would be optimum for raising my own genetic offspring.That’s the only real hangup I have, but it may not even be the case…those qualities are probably immeasurable, so it will forever be a theory of mine.

Now, I’ve thought about the 2 possible worst case scenarios: (1) In 18 years, the child will come knocking down my door having hated his/her life, wishing they were never born, and blaming all their trouble on me and my $6500 decision; (2) The child is raised to embody the opposite of all my values, AND that person will possess my intelligence (which is passed on the mother’s side, from what I’ve heard). In 20-30 years, we will be competing for some ideal (good/evil), a public office, business post, etc., and that person will become my mortal nemesis! Nobody wants a nemesis.

But happily, neither scenario seems likely, so I proceed.

There are some other ethical questions, such as, would you still do it if there was no money involved? I liked the answer one woman gave, that if it was for a family member or friend, they would do it for free, but for a stranger compensation is required. I don’t feel an obligation to provide my eggs for free at any time to anyone who wants to be fruitful and multiply. Many, if not most countries in the world have banned payments to egg donors, to prevent poor college students, or opportunistic young women on the margin, such as myself, from selling precious body parts for money. (I just hope they don’t take ALL the best eggs–leave me some winners!)

Other people have concerns for the multiple embryos that will be produced. That is a whole ‘nother issue. They will freeze the ones they don’t use in the first round. After that, they are free to use them again, donate them to another couple or to scientific research. It does feel strange donating potential humans to research. Then again, there wouldn’t have been any potential humans had there not been scientific intervention in the first place, so there’s your Catch-22.

In general, the old desperate mother’s discipline threat kind of holds true: “I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it!” Of course, this opens another can of worms about women that kill their children after they are born, whether it is the desperate teenager suffocating the baby she gave birth to secretly in a bathroom stall at the prom, or whether it’s the religious schizopherenic wacko that drowns her children in the bathtub in order to “save” them.

The whole issue of right-to-life is one of the most devisive issues in our country, in our time. Religious proponents & anti-abortion activists are convinced that once the sperm meets the egg, then “bam,” life starts and that that human’s rights are as full as any living, breathing person outside the womb. Therefore, no one, not a mother, not an abortion doctor, has a right to choose to end that life…all reasonable attempts must be made to protect & further the budding human.

Obviously, in order to have a civil society, we must have respect for the rights of others (Golden rule–you wouldn’t want someone to kill/interfere with you, so therefore, you can’t kill/interfere with others).

However, I don’t feel it is as dreadful to kill a developing fetus as it is a person outside the womb. Yes, a fetus feels pain. Yes, a fetus is a person in a specific stage of development. But a fetus hasn’t touched as many other people’s lives yet, so the loss to the human species is less, AT THIS POINT IN TIME, if you kill a fetus versus an adult human. I say at this point in time, because if you took the effect on the universe for all of time, it would be impossible to speculate on. The fetus could grow up to spread peace or cure cancer, or be a bigot or a terrorist, so it could have a wonderful effect on the planet or a devastating one.

And, I might posture for the sake of argument, it is not as dreadful for a mother to kill her own offspring as it is to kill another mother’s offspring. This one is harder to defend, as the child is now valuable to many people other than its mother, but somehow, it feels like it is not as dreadful. Its the same concept as the woman who gets an abortion, versus the jerk that pushes a woman down the stairs, killing the baby she was looking forward to caring for. They are not the same crime from the standpoint of how valuable the baby was from the mother’s perspective. Where the activists would disagree is that the baby is valuable from a broader, human race perspective…that the baby is valuable because it exists.

I think there will come a point in our country, where it already has in some countries, when resources become very scarce, and we will have to make these life & death decisions for the good of the community rather than the individual. If I know there is one pile of food and it feeds X amount of people, and Jim & Jane want to have another baby but that will mean that one of us doesn’t get food, there will be problems. Right to life gets interesting in extreme situations.

Some countries have banned more than one or two children per couple, for example. I personally don’t think I’d have a problem with this if birth control were involved, and if I understood the necessity for the community, but it’s hard to say unless you’ve been in that situation and have had to kill a child that was over quota. Yikes.

Which brings me to the final point I will make tonight. Some people think there are enough children in this world that need good families, so why make your own children? Isn’t that inefficient? Wasteful? Not thinking about the big picture? Furthermore, why go to the trouble of buying eggs to make your own children when there are plenty down the street in the orphanage that need good parents? Foolish pride of accomplishment, I suppose, or simply wanting to take place in the evolutionary ebb & flow of generations that brought you into existence. I’ve said in one of my poems that having a child is the only thing I know I’m destined to do. My most primal drives make me think I want babies. It’s the only obvious thing I was put on this planet for. Everything else is just a guess–the engineering, the writing, the massaging, whatever else I pursue–just a guess.