Long-term relationships require people to ask each other for changes, big and small, from time to time, in order to make the relationship work. This is because 2 separate individuals cannot be expected to meet each other's needs naturally and fully all of the time. When needs are not being met, one partner must ask the other for a change. I am one of those rare people that is extremely open to change. I welcome change like a new friend, and generally view change as a chance for growth and learning. Ask me for a change, and we can reach an agreement. Just don't ask me to change the past. I cannot change the past. You must let go of the past if you want a future.